The long-distance relationship is, by definition, doomed. The only way a long-distance relationship can amount to anything is for it to become a short-distance relationship.
-Meghan Daum, The long and short of long distance love, article on The Oprah Winfrey Magazine
Today, I read an article online about the pros and cons of having a long distance relationship. But mostly about the positive side of being in an LDR.
The article cited out that the sexiest invention ever made would be the telephone. Yes, a telephone. I guess all of you are scratching your heads about why on earth would a telephone be the sexiest invention ever.
Before the age of Skype and Messenger and all that jazz that makes modern LDRs a tad easier, it was the telephone that connected people. Way before that would be the pen and paper–the old pen-pal craze!
Let us talk about the telephone for a bit (thank you Graham Bell!). Doesn’t it excite you to hear your significant other whispering in that husky voice, asking you, “What are you wearing?” This question becomes a prelude to more exciting things. *wink wink* And you can use your imagination to make things even…steamy. For all he/she knows, you might be wearing your comfiest, ugliest outfit–with holes here and there!–as your conversation goes on.
Aside from the telephone, the author also cited that being in a long distance relationship isn’t bad at all contrary to what critics say.
Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
The author pointed out that with long distance relationships, your life becomes compartmentalized: a life with him/her, and a life without him/her. A life without him/her is much larger than with him/her. It is because you rarely see each other, be with each other. But when you do, it is only for a short while before you both part ways again.
What I also liked about the article is that she [the author], tells us that–through a famous LDR quote–distance isn’t for the weak, it is for the bold.
It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those who know a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.
While those who are in close contact (physically close) with their significant others also value the time spent with each other, couples who are in LDRs treasure it more.
For us, time spent with our S/O counts. We savour each second we spend time together for we don’t know when the next one will be or for how long he/she would stay. We also learn to cherish the little things that may be insignificant to other people such as an old shirt he/she left behind during his/her last visit, the threshold of a door of your house/apartment/flat/condo, or it could even be the airport’s arrival area, holding in high regard the spot where you both hugged each other tightly.
Being in an LDR is bittersweet. There is both joy and pain.
And Love. There is love.
And, in my experience, the distance is worth it.
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